In order to date healthy, happy people, you have to love yourself first. After all, if you don’t love yourself, why would someone else love you? An important of loving yourself is surrounding yourself with positive people. That means distancing yourself from people who might bring you down. That can be hard, especially if you’re dealing with a family member or friend you feel loyal to. Past history can be make you feel really guilty about parting ways with someone. But if that person is negative all the time or puts you down or tries to control you, it will be very difficult to love yourself or attract the love you deserve while that person is in your life. If you’re not sure whether or not a friend is truly toxic, here are some signs to look for: He/she is negative and complains often. He/she focuses on why something can’t be done, not how it can be done. He/she puts you down. He/she makes jokes at your expense. He/she wants to know where you are all the time. He/she is controlling. No matter what you do, it’s never good enough for them. He/she calls you names. If anyone in your life fits those descriptors, you might want to move on. You cannot love yourself, be happy and receive joy with that kind of toxicity around you. You may feel guilty and obligated to that person. Don’t. The most important person in the world is you. If someone is bringing you down, walk away. You deserve better. Conversely, here are some signs to look for in good, positive people: He/she focuses on the positive. He/she discusses uplifting ideas with you. He/she encourages you to follow your dreams. He/she makes you feel good. He/she inspires you to look at things from a different perspective. He/she laughs with you (not at you). He/she cheers you on. He/she celebrates your accomplishments. He/she expresses gratitude toward you. If you’re not sure how to meet good people, volunteer or join a group that focuses on a hobby you enjoy. Whether it’s gardening, fishing, running or reading, just find like-minded people. As you make positive friends, you will feel great. And you might just meet someone special. What else works for you? How do you meet good people you can trust?