Still single? Wondering why? Maybe it’s not so much about what you’re doing wrong, but about what you’re not
doing. Change takes action. Dating takes action. And if the only action you’re taking is cuddling your couch while watching HGTV marathons, you’re not going to get great dating results.
In order to find love, you have to look for it. So, just like you would with any other goals you want to achieve, you need to create an action plan. Right now, you have an excellent opportunity to challenge yourself to create a dating action plan that will make your 2017 the best, most romantic, amazing year ever. Here’s how.
Start where you want to end up.
Like with any other goal, before you take steps to achieve it, you have to know where you’re going. So, ask yourself, “What am I looking for? A serious relationship? Marriage? Dating multiple people
? Simply meeting new people?” By determining what you want
, you’ll find it easier to figure out how to get there.
Your goals don’t have to be conventional. Dating is different for everyone. If you’re shy
, your goal might be to stretch your comfort zone and flirt more. You may want create a plan to take small steps and build confidence
before setting a larger goal of finding a life partner. Your goals are up to you. Remember, there are no rules
when it comes to dating.
Break the big goal into smaller, actionable steps.
Sometimes looking at a big goal can be overwhelming. Avoid freaking out (and ultimately talking yourself out of getting what you want) by breaking the big goal into smaller goals.
One dater has challenged herself to go on 100 dates
. Instead of freaking out, thinking, “How will I meet 100 people?” she’s focusing on setting up one or two dates a week. That way, her action plan is simple and within reach.
Everyone has different goals. For example, say you want to meet the person you’ll marry in 2016. That’s a pretty big goal. Make it attainable and less scary by breaking down what you can do
to achieve it, step by step.
Create a calendar and map out 12 goals, one for every month of the year. Then map out one goal for each week. For example, in January, you might set a goal to start online dating
. For the first week, you could set a goal to create an online dating profile on three dating sites. The next week, set a goal to reach out to five people on each site. The next week, set a goal to go on two dates. The following week, set a goal to go on a second date.
Whatever your goals, the point is to create an action plan that works for you. Chart it out, so that at the beginning of every week, you ask yourself, “What’s my goal for this week?” That way, you don’t get overwhelmed by the big picture.
Use your tools.
As you create your dating action plan, use your dating tools. Online date, speed date
, Fantasy Date, consult a matchmaker
, or work with a dating coach. There all sorts of dating tools available. Including them in your 2016 dating action plan will help you get results.
The people around you are also great dating tools. Don’t forget to ask for referrals
. Ask everyone you know if they know someone who might be a good fit for you. It’s as simple as saying, “I’d love to meet someone who’s smart, open-minded, loves to hike, wants to travel, and loves pets. Do you know someone like that?”
People love to play matchmaker. People love to help people find love. It’s up to you to ask for help. Set a goal to ask for a certain amount of referrals in 2016 and create an action plan to reach it.
Now that you know how to create an action plan, get on it! Creating a 2017 dating action plan is easy. Just start where you want to end up, break your goal into smaller actionable steps and use your tools. Then let us know how it goes. We dare you!