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Best Face Forward: Seven Secrets to Online Profile Pic Success

I’ve spent a considerable amount of time perusing profiles and checking out photos (as I am sure you have). And because I consider myself a pretty helpful person, and since online dating is a great way to rack up Fantasy Dating points, I thought I’d share my short list of handy hints that I’ve come up with for selecting good shots for one’s profile. If followed correctly, I envision that this list will improve all of our lives considerably, and maybe even bring about world peace and an end to poverty.

1. ABSOLUTELY include at least one photo. One that shows that pretty face of yours so your momma will be proud. A non-photo profile is a non-viewed profile, and you do need the guys to actually click the profile open if they are going to learn about how great you are.

2. Oh, button your shirt back up for goodness sake. If a guy wants to see you without clothes on, which of course he does because he’s a guy after all, he can certainly wait until you’ve met in person at least ONCE. There’s good marketing and then there’s being too obvious, don’t you agree?

3. Do not use the bathroom mirror reflection shot. Unless being done ironically, this shot simply suggests that you have no friends and/or don’t know how to use your camera’s timer function. Either way, that makes me feel sad for you.

4. Don’t even consider scanned passport or driver’s license photos. Pretty much anything else would be better, considering these are notoriously unflattering sources. So maybe consider pretty much anything else.

5. Clarify babies. If you happen to be holding a baby in a photo (and I do agree they are generally adorable), do take a moment to indicate in the caption if it’s yours or somebody else’s. Just a real handy tidbit of information for the viewer, who will immediately assume it’s yours (not that there’s anything wrong with that) if you don’t proactively indicate otherwise.

6. Don’t use a pic of you getting all cuddly with your ex (of all people). In fact, now might be a good time to go ahead and throw those pictures out! Time for a good ol’ fashioned healthy purge. Go ahead, there. I’m proud of you.

7. Smile! Nothing’s sexier or more inviting than a genuine smile, and nothing’s scarier to a guy than a woman with 10 photos in which all she does is scowl at the camera like a petulant and potentially clinically depressed supermodel. Cheer up! Life ain’t so bad, especially since you are about to meet the love of your life.

So…spill it, Fantasy Daters. How will you improve your online dating photo? -Aimee Firestone


  1. LuciousLush

    June 12, 2012

    I actually have a photo that I posted on my on my OKCupid profile that I thought was cute, and that the angle showing a tiny sliver of my leopard-print brassiere, a little cleavage and a somewhat inviting smile might get me some fresh attention. Well, let me say FRESH, and how! I can’t believe the lewd comments that have come in since I put that pic up! Sure, I get lots of attention with it, but certainly not the kind I had been hoping for. I am going to take it down, since your advice seems to mesh pretty well with this scenario, but I wish we lived in a world where a coy little snapshot like that (all in all quite innocent, I assure you) wasn’t an invitation for the creeps to come a’creepin’.

  2. fdadmin

    June 12, 2012

    LuciousLush, yikes! Thank you for providing a great example of Aimee’s point of “being to obvious.” Take that pic down and get those creeps a’ creepin’ elsewhere!

    Congratulations on using your tools and maximizing your Fantasy Dating experience by combining it with online dating. Remember, it’s all about statistics. The more people you meet, the more chances you have of meeting a match! THAT’S playing to win!

  3. Sam17

    June 12, 2012

    Thanks for the tips!

    If I use a photo with a guy friend, I reference that he’s a friend in the caption… “Game night with friends”. And, taken from what I’ve seen on profiles, if you want to use your favorite pic, but your ex is in it… at least crop the ex completely out of a photo… the sliver of head or disembodied arm and hand on your waist is disturbing… and still shouts ex. :)

    Meanwhile, will someone clue in the guys on OkCupid and Match as well? Crop that ex and put your shirts on boys! :)

    Happy dating!!

  4. Ashley1083

    June 13, 2012

    I think a lot of the guys on the dating sites need to read this. They have more bathroom photos, and drunken pictures. I definitely choose my profile pictures wisely, but have a hard time finding guys with pictures that aren’t of them surrounded by a group of girls or are blatantly drunk. And the ones that do I can barely see their faces because they’re 30 feet away in front of a waterfall, or half way across the beach.
    But thank you for the article. Very well put!

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