by Niki Payne
Have you ever dated someone you thought was way out of your league? Did you ever stop to consider why you think you don’t belong in someone else’s league and what league you’re subconsciously putting yourself in as a result?
So instead of thinking someone is out of your league because he or she is too good for you, or too this or too that, stop to ask yourself whether that person is good enough for you. If you were a member of your own dating league
, what qualities must a prospective player possess in order to compete for your heart? Do you want to date in a league you created for yourself where you call the shots, or do you want to date in someone else’s league where you have to play along or sit on the bench?
If you’re tired of sitting on the proverbial sidelines, maybe it’s time for you to take a timeout and think about the real reasons he’s out of your league. Here are a few reasons you should probably cut a guy from your league
, or at least sit him on the bench until he steps up his game:
1. He’s emotionally unavailable.
2. He makes empty promises.
3. He straight up ignores your phone calls or text messages.
4. He always has an excuse for why he didn’t call or return your text.
5. He only contacts you when he wants something.
6. He lacks in ambition.
7. He is more attractive when he doesn’t speak.
8. His maturity level is beneath you.
Whose League Are You Really Dating In?
As you can see, there are many reasons he might be out of your league, all of which are a reflection of your own self-worth.
If you aren’t getting your needs met in a relationship, and you are totally okay with that, then you’re telling yourself that you don’t deserve better than you already have. That’s a mediocre way of thinking reserved for people who want mediocre relationships.
are not a mediocre person. You want more for yourself. And if you want to start dating in the league above you, you need to start stepping up your game to become a better person and date higher quality people.
Everyone has their own unique dating league. The right players for your personalized dating league
are going to be the ones who match your desires, treat you the way you want to be treated, and put in the time to win you over because in the game of love, YOU are the prize! So, start treating yourself like one.
Consider the thought that we are who we date. If you don’t like your dating pool, stop swimming it. Find another pond to fish in. Be inspired to step up your game so you can attract more of what you want into your life.
We dare you
Niki Payne is a freelance writer based in Los Angeles who writes for Examiner.com. She follows the dating industry like it’s her job and makes it a point to know who’s who among all the local dating experts. She’s a matchmaker in her own right connecting singles to the best dating products, services and coaches on the Web. Connect with Niki on Twitter at @nikipayne.