don’t have to be hard. It’s just two people meeting up to see if they can make a connection. But in case you’d like a little guidance and are wondering what to do and what not to do, here are seven definite no no’s.
1. Don’t talk too much.
When you spend an entire date chattering away, it can be a turn off. You may not even realize you’re doing it – especially if you’re nervous. Don’t fear silence. Remember, you have to give your date an opportunity to speak.
2. Don’t talk about yourself too much.
Sure, it’s important to share things about yourself with your date. But if the entire conversation resolves around you, your date will feel like you have no interest in them. And that probably won’t get you a second date.
3. Don’t interrogate your date.
It’s important to show curiosity about the person you’re with. A great way to do that is to ask casual questions. Ask your date about his or her interests, where they grew up, what they think of the neighborhood or the venue in which your date is taking place. Do not ask questions that are not your business, such as, how much money they make, what kind of credit score
they have or why their last relationship ended. Interrogation is scary, not sexy.
4. Don’t over share.
Although the goal of a first date is to give two people an opportunity to get to know each other, there is such a thing as too much
. Don’t discuss your family issues, childhood traumas or adult phobias. Save those things for later, when you’ve had time to connect on a deeper level. Unloading all of that on a stranger can be very overwhelming and unattractive.
5. Don’t talk about your ex.
This should be a no-brainer, yet people do it all the time. The last thing a person wants is for their date to babble on about someone else. If you spend a first date talking about your ex, you are not ready to date. Try again when you are.
6. Don’t play with your phone.
Checking your phone while on a date shows a blatant lack of consideration for the person you’re with. It’s rude. If you have any desire to see that person again, put your phone away.
7. Don’t be rude to the people around you.
Whether at a restaurant or a bowling alley, be kind to the people who work there. Smile, say, “Please” and “thank you.” Remember, you are making a first impression. Make it a good one
What do you think? What else should you not do on a first date?