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Why Dating is a Numbers Game

People say dating is a numbers game for a reason. Simple math will tell you that if you go on zero dates, your chances of finding love are zero. Just like if you go on 10 dates, you give yourself 10 chances to meet someone who’s right for you.

The key is giving yourself opportunities. That’s all dates are – opportunities to find out what you do and don’t like about someone. And to find out what you do and don’t want in a partner.

Too often, singles get caught in a dating rut. Many say it’s been months or years since their last date. Yet they say they want to find love. The thing is, it doesn’t matter how much you want to find love. If you spend your weekends on the couch, eating Ben and Jerry’s watching Lifetime movies, your chances of meeting “the one” are non-existent. You have to dare to date.

That’s where the numbers come in. Before she joined Fantasy Dating, Katie hadn’t been on a date in two years. Her competitive spirit drove her to play hard. Suddenly, she went on three dates with three different guys. Although none of them were a match, she had fun. (Except for the one when the guy bumped into his ex at the bar, who gave Katie the stink eye throughout the date.) And she’d gotten comfortable with dating again. “I forgot how much fun it was to meet new people and flirt,” she said.

“Dating is a lot like sales,” says JillP, another Fantasy Dater and a realtor. “I usually show my clients tons of homes before they find ‘the one’. People will like some things about one house and other things about another. Finding that perfect match isn’t easy. So you just have to keep trying.”

Getting started can be scary. Let’s face it, no one wants to be rejected. The key is to not take it personally. Think about it. You’ve probably gone out with plenty of nice people who just weren’t right for you. You wouldn’t want them to take it personally, would you?

Rejection is a good thing because it’s proof you’re trying. Dating takes practice. It takes practice to flirt, ask someone out, get their number and be comfortable with the whole dating process. That’s another reason why dating is a numbers game. What if you’re nervous on one date? Or what if you’re having a bad day on another? Don’t you deserve another shot at presenting your best self?

To increase your numbers and your probability of finding love, use dating tools. Online date, speed date, use a matchmaker or consult a dating coach.

The concept is simple – the more dates you go on, the more chances you have of finding a good match. Just do the math.


  1. RobDelio2347

    May 22, 2014

    Yes, it’s a numbers game. But it’s not easy to just walk up to a woman and engage her in conversation. Especially if she’s with other women. And online dating is just all hook ups. Finding good quality singles who actually want a relationship is hard. So, it’s easy for you to say it’s a numbers game because you’re probably not playing it.

    • fdadmin

      May 22, 2014

      Hey RobDelio2347! Thanks for commenting. I know it can be nerve wracking to approach someone you’re interested in. But the more you practice, the easier it gets. We Fantasy Daters try not to take it all too seriously. Are you playing the game? If not, I’d love for you to join. It can really help to take the dread out of dating and replace it with fun!

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